I stand in the Atlantic Ocean jumping the waves as they attempt to crash over me. Some are too big to jump and I dive under them at just the right time. With each dive I hear the force of the wave breaking above me. The impact as it breaks – pounding… booming… swelling…nature’s most powerful force.
37 weeks pregnant, I feel my baby boy kick and turn inside of me as I take on wave after wave after wave. I hold my belly and for a moment all of time stops and the world slows down till it barely moves. I feel a surge of emotion and an unbelievable protection over something I have yet to hold or see or meet. And yet in the same breath the mountain that’s been emerging, somehow getting larger each day, looms before me.
I point my face towards the sun and close my eyes for a second. I feel so free in this moment. Standing in water there is no pain. No gravity pulling my belly downwards. My back doesn’t continuously ache and even my re-injured ribs, potentially my re-broken ribs feel better than they have done in months. In this moment there is nothing. Just the ocean, the waves, the sun, the wind and my body. Standing in unity. Flowing in sync.
I feel the swell of the water start to pull around my legs and I open my eyes just in time to dive under another thunderous wave. The peaceful moment disappears with a whirlpool of foam all around me as more waves come crashing through… one after another after another. There’s barely time to catch a breath.
The hospital wanted to induce me this week at 38 weeks. The baby is very big, but more than that I get the feeling they’re just trying to control the situation as much as they possibly can. For the first 6 months I had kept myself in a great place with the pregnancy. But after losing my OB practice at 30 weeks pregnant, because they suddenly decided out of nowhere I was too high risk to be seen by them any longer and refused to see me again… fear slowly crept in. For 6 weeks no one would see me. Finally a call from the medical director at the high risk OB group asking me to come in and see her personally definitely made things feel a little better, but for some reason I haven’t been able to quite shake that initial fear that managed to hook itself onto something refusing to let go.
“It’s not your pregnancy that’s high risk, it’s the labor that’s very high risk.” “Every patient here is high risk… you’ve been promoted to high HIGH risk.” “Your situation is so unknown and so unpredictable we’re going to have to have every specialist on standby just in case.” The words ring loud in my ears. High risk. Unpredictable. Unknown. Every medical professional I’ve seen keeps saying the same thing. No one knows how my body is going to respond going into a situation as traumatic and stressful as labor.
I jump through another wave. Emotions are suddenly high. I feel angry, lost, out of control and very fearful of the unknown. Every medical observance weighing me down, my feet planted in the sand, my legs suddenly feeling heavy. Last year when my body started attacking itself after the horrendous miscarriage I went through… it was one of the worst and hardest times of my life. Being stuck in a hospital bed for 6 weeks unable to move, needles every day, medications that made me feel out of it, the excruciating physical pain of constantly dropping oxygen and fighting for air, memory loss due to the lack of oxygen and intense body cramps from lying still for so long. When I let myself go back there I feel claustrophobic and panicky… Will my body do the same thing again when I go into labor? Or potentially as soon as the labor is over? Doctors have told me there’s a real possibility it could. They’re avoiding a c-section because surgery is a trigger for autoimmune. Labor or post labor can apparently also be a trigger.
I stare out into the depth of the ocean. There’s a point where the ocean meets the sky and you no longer know which one is which. Both sky and ocean – they just keep going. The vastness of both makes me stop and take a deep breath. Baby boy is coming one way or another. I’ve had an amazing pregnancy. Yes it’s been very painful. From my pelvis, to the crazy pressure that never let up, re-injuring my broken ribs, some breathing issues and an asthma flare up… but overall… I have worked out 6x a week at high intensity for 9 months straight without missing a beat, walked my dogs every day of the week, worked without having a sick day or missing a show, and not needed to change anything in my day-to-day routine. I mean that’s something I should be proud of! Now I just need to get through the final part. The most important part. Bringing this beautiful miracle into the world safely, while staying alive myself!
I dive under the next wave. I’ve probably been doing this for close to an hour. My legs feel less heavy again. Fear’s little hook hasn’t let go, but for a moment it doesn’t feel quite as intense. I gently place my hands back on my belly. He never stops moving. I visualize my ultrasound from the previous week and follow his spine, move over his little bottom and find his little hands and feet. Out of nowhere tears jump into my eyes. 5 and a half years I’ve waited for him. I didn’t think it would ever happen. I’m so close to holding you baby boy. I’m so close to smelling your head, and feeling those little feet which have been kicking me painfully for so long. We’re so close. I promise I’ll keep you safe. I promise I won’t let anything happen to you. Even if my body does start failing again, I promise I’ll bring you out safely.
The tears fall as I jump through the next wave. This one hurt as it crashes through me. I should have dove under that one but I didn’t have enough time between the two waves. That’s what the looming mountain in front of me feels like right now. Going from pregnancy to labor is going to be so quick, I won’t have time to make a decision. It’ll just happen. It’ll be painful but there’s no stopping it.
Fear has hooked himself firmly inside of me and for now he’s not going anywhere. But as I breathe in the ocean air deeply and continue to jump each wave I know I have a choice to not let fear be the only contender right now. Breathe, jump, breathe, dive… I’ve been given this miracle to carry and it was far from luck and most definitely not by my own doing that this pregnancy came to be OR that I was able to healthily carry him for the last 38 weeks. I breathe in HOPE. Deeply. Saturating as many parts as I can. I stare out again at where the ocean meets the sky. Limitless. Endless. Infinite. It’s all so far out of my control. Just like I can’t control these waves, or the vastness of the ocean, the sky that never ends… I can’t control how this baby will be born. I breathe it in deep. FAITH fills my lungs. You’ve got me this far in life. I know with every fibre in my being that You won’t leave me now. Whatever that looks like. Even when it feels so out of control, I KNOW He’s completely in control. I take one more deep breath… peace gently floods in. Like a warm sip of tea slides down your throat and thaws a cold body, peace tingles through me and numbs the nervous anxiety mixed within the fear as I stare up at the mountain looming before me. It still stands before me, towering high. But the peace makes it feel just a little less threatening. Whatever happens – I can do this.
I dive under one final wave, come up for air, turn and slowly make my way back to shore. The sand glistens in the sun before me. “We got this baby boy. You and me. We got this. No matter what happens.” The fear of the unknown, the uneasiness of the ‘what ifs’, the stress of the ‘what could be’… they continue to linger. But I breathe in deep again… hope, faith, peace. Hope, Faith, Peace. I look back at where the ocean meets the sky one more time. The waves crashing under it. In a matter of days or potentially a few weeks they’re all going to meet. Fear, what ifs, unknowns and stress… but also hope and faith and peace, beauty, a miracle and a promise complete. All in one place. They’re going to collide and meet and crash and pound and swell as my body brings this little one into the world. There’s no stopping it and there’s certainly no predicting it. There’s just moving forwards towards it. And in that moment I realize once again that all I can choose to do. Choose to move forward. Taking it all in my stride. Focusing on the good and putting my faith in the rest.
Ever walk through weeks, maybe even months, where life seems to just be relentless? One thing happens which leads into something else, which makes way for the next and cascades into a succession of rocks flying past you at high speed, some narrowly missing you and others just smashing you right in the face? Well I’m there. In the middle of the “rock storm”, dodging some and being taken out completely by others. Catastrophes never seem to fly solo. They work together as a team. Always appearing as a sequence of events. Why is that?
This last month has been exhausting. Four weeks ago I flew to the UK to see my family and friends for the last time before our little boy makes his entrance into the world. Very pregnant. It was supposed to be a happy time. Celebrating the miracle of a little life which we didn’t think would ever happen. The end of a very long wait and infertility journey. Within 36 hours of landing I got a call from one of THE absolute closest people in my life. My person. The one I speak to about quite literally everything. A mentor, a second mom, a best friend, spiritual leader, counselor, family, like I said… “everything”. A very large brain tumor had been identified and she needed emergency brain surgery to get it removed. BAM. Receiving news like that stops your world for a second. You have to catch your breath. Steady your feet. In 16 years I’ve never even stopped to think that anything could ever happen to my person. She’s just steady. Solid. Always there, no matter what. In 16 years it’s never crossed my mind that she’s also just a human – fragile, vulnerable and exposed to the same threats we all face every single day. Surgery wouldn’t happen for a few more weeks so I decided to put it in a little box, tuck it away on a shelf and ignore it for now. I get excited again about the 12 days ahead and focus my attention on the trip and my immediate surroundings.
48 hours after landing. Another call comes through and one of my little sisters has been hospitalized. I’m not going to go into details but the following few days were really tough. Feelings of helplessness, out of control desperation and an urge to want to step in and fix an awful situation took over. There’s not much worse than seeing someone you love so deeply go through something so hopeless and not be able do to anything about it. I took out another little box, stuffed it in, sealed it up and put it on the shelf next to the other box. “I’ll get back to that when I know how to fix it.”
72 hours into my trip. It’s 9am. My husband calls. Seeing as I’m 5 hours ahead of him I know immediately something is wrong. His dad, my father-in-law, Karl, has had a heart attack and is being air-flighted to an ICU near our house. As I sit on the couch in my mom’s house, 4000 miles away, life stops all over again. I focus on my breathing. Try to hold back the tears as I hear the panic in Ryan’s voice and a very deep ache in the pit of my stomach tells me I might not get to see Karl ever again. I shift gears and click into responsive mode. Start messaging our community for prayer and ask friends to check in on the dogs, knowing the following days will be a blur and we need help. After getting off the phone, the waiting game of news begins and a battle of uncertainty unfolds in my head. Do I fly back? I’ve been in England less than 3 days. So much money spent on tickets, I’m too pregnant to fly home and come back again. I only get to see my family a couple of times a year. I don’t know what to do. I spend the afternoon seeing my little sister in hospital, trying to focus on what’s in front of me, but struggling to push the weight of life off of me.
It’s supposed to be a happy time. A celebration of life. The miracle inside of me kicks continuously, keeping me grounded and reminding me of the good that’s still very much at play, despite the dark that’s trying to take over.
As the weekend progresses Karl starts to improve a little. I breathe. Maybe it’ll all be ok after all. I box up the heart attack, the ICU, the guilt of not being there supporting my family and my husband, I tape up the box and place it on the shelf next to the others. The shelf creaks a little under the weight, but it remains sturdy enough.
8 of my best friends throw me a surprise baby shower that weekend and I’m so thankful I stayed to enjoy some very special moments with my family and friends.
7 days into my 12-day trip Ryan calls. The news is not good. Karl has taken a turn for the worst and it doesn’t look like he’s going to make it after all. He asks if I want to FaceTime with him. I will never forget my last ever call with a man I loved so very very much. He was so frail. The moment I saw him I knew I would never get to hug him goodbye. Never hold his hand again. Never be able to introduce our baby boy to him, the promise he’d prayed for alongside us and cried so many tears at Christmas when we shared the news of pregnancy with him. I knew as I looked into his eyes and he told me how much he loved me that I wouldn’t make it back in time. That FaceTime was the hardest call I’ve ever been on. Little pieces of my heart shattered as we spoke and said our goodbye’s. I asked him to hold on. He promised me he would try. The guilt of my selfishness took over and I released Karl from that promise and told him “it’s ok. You can let go. I know one day I will see you again.” Karl passed away that evening.
I had already changed my flights and was on the next flight home cutting my trip short by 4 days which broke my heart all over again.
Tired. So tired and so emotional I sit on the plane. 9 hours to Atlanta, transfer, then on to Norfolk. The baby sits high against my diaphragm. This is even more uncomfortable than on the way over. It’s hard to breathe. The moment the seatbelt sign turns off I get up and go and stand at the back. I’m so tired. I try and sit down again, it’s really hard to breathe. I stand for the next 7 hours. Legs aching, back throbbing, fortunately the team of flight attendants are amazing, checking up on me every few minutes. Bad turbulence hits. I have to go sit down. Breathe. It’s so tight. No matter what position I attempt to sit in, I can’t get quite enough air. Turbulence stops, I immediately stand up. Another hour passes. I’ve now been stood for 8 hours straight. Turbulence hits again. You’ve got to be kidding. I sit down. Why is my chest so tight sitting down? I must have looked very uncomfortable because a flight attendant comes over and checks my circulation… “You need to be on oxygen, like now”. I go to the back with her and get put on oxygen. “Please body, please don’t start doing this to me now. Please just get me home.” I spend the remaining two hours of the flight on oxygen. A ground medical team is waiting for me when we land in Atlanta. They tell me to get to a hospital but all I want to do is get home. I get cleared to take my last flight home and eventually make it back. My chest remains tight as I walk into my house full of mourning family. 24 hours of travel has taken it out of me but I know now is not the time to collapse in a heap on the floor!
The weekend passes, people in and people out. I never fully realized how busy life gets after a loved one passes. Monday hits. My chest has continued to get tighter. If I sit I can’t breathe. I know my oxygen hasn’t been at 100% for a few days now. If it’s my asthma I’ve pushed it to the limit many a times. “Chi, it’s not just your body right now”, I remind myself firmly. Against everything in me, pushing aside my life-long hospital fear, which I’ve realized will probably never go away, Ryan takes me to the hospital. My oxygen is low and a slight wheeze has started. Oxygen, breathing treatments, steroids… I know the drill. The ER is rammajammed crazy. People everywhere. All I want to do is GET OUT and GO HOME. But I know the little boy growing inside of me is more important than anything else now. Of course this had to happen. Because life isn’t quite crazy enough. The doctor comes in after multiple breathing treatments and allows me to take the oxygen off. Within 5 minutes it drops into the low 80s and immediate fear strikes. Oh no. Please don’t let this happen again. Has my body just been under too much stress? Has it had enough? I reason with myself… “My asthma has flared up so many times and can last a few days. Do not go to worst case scenario right now. Ur fine. It’ll stabilize.” Thankfully it did. After 7 hours of breathing treatments, oxygen, steroids and whatever else, my levels stabilized enough and I was able to go home. For some reason unsettled feelings linger, but I know I don’t have time to think them through right now… I find another box, stuff them away and balance it on the shelf next to the other boxes. The shelf wobbles, but continues to hold.
The memorial service the following week was beautiful. Karl, a Master Chief in the Navy, 30 years of service, was honored, remembered and celebrated. Such a beautiful, kind and incredibly generous soul. Me and him had such a special connection together. I will miss him forever. Within a few days the last remaining people staying at our house leave and suddenly for the first time in weeks, it’s quiet.
It’s Tuesday afternoon and I’m on my way to physical therapy. My phone rings. It’s one of my OB’s. I have a team of them, not just one. “Hey Chi, it’s Dr Webber. After your asthma attack last week I decided to really look into your file and ended up spending 3 1/2 hours reading every single note on what happened to you last year. I brought it into our team meeting this morning and we spoke about you for over an hour and unfortunately we have decided you’re actually too high risk and you can no longer be on our service. We’re referring you to Maternal Fetal Medicine and that means you also won’t be able to deliver your baby at our hospital as they are linked to Norfolk General.” The words continue to come out of her mouth but somewhere during the conversation my brain shut down and panic starts setting in. I’m 30 weeks pregnant. They’ve known about my case for 27 weeks and it was brought up multiple times in the first month of my pregnancy. I have a hard time trusting people, especially medical people, and when I found an all-female team linked to the hospital who saved my life I knew this was the right team to be under. It’s taken most of my pregnancy to finally start feeling comfortable with them. I saw Maternal Fetal Medicine in my first month of pregnancy, it was an awful experience, horrendous appointment, horrible little man doctor who once again told me I was too complicated and they didn’t know what to do with me so just told me to stay under my current OB team. On top of that, Norfolk General was the very hospital who declined my transfer request TWICE last year, because my case was too complicated and they didn’t know how to handle it. I was absolutely NOT transferring to MFM or delivering at a hospital who knows nothing about me or about how to handle what happened last year IF that was to happen again. The conversation with my OB finishes and I sit in the car staring out the window. I can’t take any more. I’m not sure what a mental breakdown feels like, but I’m pretty sure I’m not too far off. The OB told me to still come to my Thursday appointment so there wouldn’t be a lapse of care while my case was being transferred. “Breathe Chi. We’ll figure it out.” I scramble to find another box, stuff it all in and push it onto the end of the shelf.
That night I call my person who is prepped and ready to go into major brain surgery early the following morning. I don’t sleep much. My brain is full. Waking up early the next day I start praying. “Please let everything go fine. Please don’t let her die. Please don’t let anything go wrong.” Five hours feel like an absolute eternity. It takes longer than expected. I sit in my car waiting for news. Tears start to fall. Thoughts start moving to worst case scenario. A text comes through: “She’s alive. Surgeons got what they needed to get. She’ll be in recovery for a few hours before moving to the ICU.” I breathe. Thank. You. God.
I feel fragile as I walk into my OB practice. I just need to be able to address my concerns, ask some questions and find some reassurance that everything will be ok. There’s one more OB on the team I haven’t met yet. She’s my provider for today’s appointment. She walks in rushed and blurts out a whole spiel on why it’s good I’m being transferred. I wait a moment for her to stop talking and attempt to say something. She cuts me off. I feel my emotions building. Stay calm, stay calm. I try to ask a question, she cuts me off again. She continues, disrespectful, no empathy, barely looks at me, just spewing words. I finally look at her and say “I’m not delivering at Norfolk and I’m not transferring to MFM.” She turns around and finally looks at me… “We can stand here all day talking about it and going round in circles but we’re not keeping you on our service.” I get up, look at her, sarcastically thank her for her time, support and empathy and storm out of my appointment.
I run out of the building and find my car. I slam the door shut and grip the steering wheel as I stare up at the sky through the window. Tears fall heavy. Crying loud, uncontrollable. I try and find my phone to call my person and realize I can’t. She’s in the ICU completely sedated. I cry harder. And suddenly out of nowhere the shelf comes crashing down. The boxes split open and every emotion comes spilling out. Karl’s death, my sister, my family being thousands of miles away, my person lying in the ICU, this baby. THIS BABY. How am I going to deliver this baby without a plan, without a team. I’d kept my fear of delivery at bay for 7 months and suddenly all the fear hits. What if my body does attack itself again during delivery? What if I can’t keep him safe? What if my asthma keeps coming back. I can’t stop the tears. I can’t stop the fear. The thought of starting again with a different OB team, a team with a bunch of men on it, any one of them could be on call the night I go into labor. The thought of walking into a hospital I’ve never even been to. For a moment I struggle to keep myself grounded. I feel the stress in my body. Painful cramps all over my abdomen. My chest tight. I haven’t felt this alone in a very long time. I’m too complicated. No one knows what to do with me. A desperate craving comes over me to feel safe. To have a plan. For someone to tell me what to do. How to safely deliver this baby in just 8 weeks time. I’m suddenly incredibly aware that my mental health in all of this is as important as my physical health to actually keep this baby and myself safe.
As I sit on the couch writing this blog, baby boy hasn’t stopped moving, kicking or punching. Every now and again I have to gently push him out from under my ribs or off my bladder! I smile as he reminds me every day of the miracle he is. The rocks have been flying, life has been relentless, I feel utterly overwhelmed with everything going on right now, but this miracle stares back at me. There is a full baby underneath my skin. Moving and growing! I place my hands on my belly and feel his kicks, his little head, I watch my belly move in the craziest of ways as he flips and turns over attempting to find more space! Most of the time there’s not much you can really control in this life, but I can control what I focus my gaze on. Do I focus it on the chaos surrounding me? The loss? The hurt? The things I can’t control? The things I fear? The things I’m terrified of? People who have let me down? No. If I focus on those things I’ll drown. Instead I look at my unborn baby and remind myself of the miracle that’s not just in front of me, but literally inside of me. I remember God’s promises and all the good. I remind myself that the storms will come, but they won’t last. The rocks that hit hard will hurt. But the pain will fade. And even though, with just weeks to go, I have no plan and no OB team and I’m scared and painfully aware how unpredictable my body is and this birth might be, I’m not alone. I’m so far from being alone. And somehow it will work out.
Our entire lives consist of storms, sunny days, rain, clouds, rocks, tornadoes and more storms. There are moments of pure joy, and many moments of pain. Seasons of hard and lonely, feelings of being out of control and utterly overwhelmed. Periods of brokenness, betrayal and stretches of attempting to survive, living purely in survival mode. But I think we can all look back and also see so much beauty showered throughout. How can we appreciate the light, if we haven’t also experienced the darkness? I know there is so much goodness out there. And even though life has felt relentless and I’m completely exhausted and depleted, the good will always override the bad and the light will always overcome the dark.
Today is a strange day. Honestly, it’s been a strange week. TODAY… Sunday September 3rd 2023 was my due date. Due to give birth to a miracle. A beautiful baby. I’m supposed to be huge, ready to pop, and life should be on the verge of changing forever. I didn’t think I’d ever get the privilege of being a mom to my own child. I almost was. And then I wasn’t. In the 9 months that have passed since finding out I was pregnant so much has happened. It’s been a year I will always remember yet in so many ways wish I could forget. This last week a friend and a colleague went through exactly what I did. Found out she was pregnant, miscarried and ended up going through surgery. You think you’re past the emotions. Dealt with the grief, the disappointment, and the pain. And then out of nowhere it’s back and it’s raw. You’ve ripped the scab off the wound and it’s bleeding all over again.
Instead of finishing up the baby room I’m out training. Today’s early session is a bike, run, bike, run. It’s less than 3 weeks until my triathlon. This session is intense. My legs are burning, heart is racing and the sweat dripping in my eyes is making it hard to see. I feel sad. The void of what should have been echoes loudly each time my feet hit the ground. Why does it always have to be so hard? Nothing has ever been simple. And it’s been far from easy.
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I’ve transitioned back to my bike for round two. Holding an 18mph the wind races past me and I’m thankful for the perfect training temperature right now. It’s been a tough summer of training with the heat and humidity. It didn’t seem to matter if it was 6am or 3pm, the heat has been suffocating and the humidity has made running and biking ridiculously tough! I shift in my saddle. Hamstrings are burning. I smile… my physical therapists would be proud right now. A year ago I couldn’t even get my hamstrings on.
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I look straight ahead, the perfect blue sky hangs lightly above, trees tower up on either side and the water glistens through. All I can hear is the wind and the birds. I want the sadness to lift. The heaviness to drop off. It’s been weighing me down all week. It’s just a date. Today doesn’t have to be a representation of what should have been. It can represent “what is” instead. What can today portray? I’m distracted by my burning hamstrings. They’re really on fire right now! I think back to when I started physical therapy. 16 months ago I walked into Thrive oblivious to how one place and the people within it would change my life forever. I was so broken. Physically and mentally. Injured, hurting, desperately hopeless and on the verge of giving up on life completely, I walked in and was met by an overwhelming sense of love, understanding, patience and care. Who knew back then that those very people would become some of my absolute closest friends.
They started working on my body and some things finally started to make sense. All the years of trying for a baby, the treatments I’d gone through, exploratory surgery, the endless procedures… The list goes on. My physical therapist told me I could never have fallen pregnant because my pelvis was rotated the wrong way and half my body wasn’t functioning as it should! Years of abuse takes its toll on a body and I had a long road to recovery but I was finally in a place where healing could start to take place. The mental healing which started happening alongside the physical healing was something I could never have imagined. Turns out, when they started working on my body, a lot of the trauma started releasing too. I started being able to sleep again, the headaches lifted, the nightmares stopped, the deep fog I had been living in for months started lifting and I felt my old self slowly re-emerge.
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I continue biking. Sweat dripping from my face. Right, left, right, left. Suddenly the burning hamstrings are no longer an inconvience. They are a momentous reminder of the bad that turned into good. Exercise and sport is what has kept me going for most of my life. It’s my therapy, the way I deal and process everything I’ve gone through and continue to walk through. When the constant injuries started I didn’t know how to exist and keep all the emotions and restlessness at bay. I smile at the realization that it was those very injuries that led me to Thrive which not only opened the door to a whole new community of family and friendships, but it would be the very place that would start healing a lot of my body both physically and mentally.
Yes, today represents what should have been. What could have been if pain and hardships didn’t exist. Today there have been tears. Tears for the loss, the grief, the dreams that shattered and the yearnings fractured. And yet, in so many ways today also represents hope and thankfulness.
If I’d never gone through all those injuries, I would never have found Thrive. If I’d never walked through the doors of Thrive, I would never have found a new level of healing for my body and find the physical therapist who would actually understand my body in a way not many others ever could and no one else ever has. I also met one of my best friends Brittany through Thrive. She happened to be training for a triathlon. The day she was supposed to do her triathlon, a storm came through and despite months of training she wasn’t able to do her triathlon. Crying on the phone to me that day, my heart broke for her, and I said we would train together and I would do the next triathlon with her. The insane training for an Olympic distance triathlon and building up cardio levels to a whole new extreme is what ended up saving my life in hospital 8 months later. The miscarriage? Yes, it was horrendous and unbelievably painful. It was also what caused me be in hospital for 6 weeks fighting for my life. And yet, I actually fell pregnant. Something that had once been impossible had actually happened.
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I lift my bike back onto the bike rack and start running. The final leg of my training session. The right side of my body is cramping. My legs feel like they can’t move anymore. Right, left, right, left. Just keep running. “You’ve got this”, I tell myself. Less than five months ago I was lying in a hospital bed, had lost 18 lbs of muscle and couldn’t walk more than a few feet without my oxygen bottoming out. Today, I’m back training 10+ times a week and achieving what the doctors had told me would be impossible.
I think back to every moment that has gotten me to this very place. Every tear shed, every pain endured, the lowest moments, the anguish, the desperation, the not seeing a way out, the voices inside telling me to give up, not feeling like I could take another step. Man, there have been more moments than I could ever attempt to say out loud or write down. And yet every single moment has had its purpose. And every single bit of darkness has pushed me into a light so bright I have to squint to take it in or see it for what it really is. God has used everything. Not just some things. Everything. Even other people’s darkness.
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Today is going to represent hope. Hope that the impossible happened. Hope that I’m alive and breathing and here to continue experiencing this life. Hope that my life will continue to be a miracle. And hope that I will be able to help many others along the way.
As I finish out my run, the sweat burning in my eyes, I’m thankful for all the dark times that have catapulted me into this very moment. The pain is real and the darkness can be dark. The tears today will come and go. But that’s ok. Because ultimately I have gained more than I have ever lost and I have found a depth to this life I otherwise could have never possessed. Today. Today I choose to represent hope.
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